Belief is the gamechanger......
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I reblog stuff (including NSFW) that feels how I want my life to feel.
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This means that, in addition to posting text posts and images that do not center around a human body, I mostly post tons of photos of young/20-something women doing things that I, a 20-something woman, would do in my ideal lifestyle.
And that includes: yoga(!), meditation & mindfulness, "bohemian" hippie life, festivals, edm, fitspo, self love & eastern philosophies... Veganism, studyspo, travel, nature, romance & sexiness... Female artists, athletes, etc. PLUS... Being "pretty" and looking a way that I'd like to look, and very nearly do.
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The pictures & things I post aren't mine...
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As for the people in the photos I reblog-- thanks, I guess I think you're the cool kids. 😎 I probably think I want to achieve a lifestyle that could produce such photos.
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But also... A big component of this blog is the aspiration I have to not only appreciate my body in a more healthy way, but to also make myself look a certain way (healthy and fit... Really attractive)
And the reblogging of skinny & conventionally beautiful (à la mainstream media) women might merit a trigger warning? I reblog the pics thinking the photos don't affect ME in a negative way so I'll post them. But part of me is bothered by reblogging those publicly because I know how I usually look at photos like that & start hating on myself...
(I have a strict rule for myself with this blog that when I operate or view it, I only generate self love, inspiration, peace of mind, etc).
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That being said.... It is NOT HEALTHY to think that a better life hinges upon a more socially lauded appearance/body. It is just a false belief I've lived with from the time I was super small (think like 5yo, thanks to our image-obsessed culture that loooves to objectify women & their bodies)... And, right or wrong, at this point in my life I'm trying to make my self-love skills and my appearance alterations meet somewhere in the middle. This is probably actually indicative of deficiencies in my self-esteem... And it's not what I would advise to anyone else in good conscience.
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It's okay to enjoy improving one's appearance, according to one's OWN preferences... IF done in a healthy way--
And to do so in a healthy way is to understand that such a thing is material, temporal, ultimately fairly insubstantial. It is not the end-all be-all. It will not make your problems and self-hate and loneliness go away. It will not suddenly open doors to the life you dream of. That dream life does NOT rely upon your appearance!
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It relies solely upon self-love!
Love yourself, your body, your appearance... Care for your body as an act of self-love. Because you deserve to appreciate yourself, and that is the natural state.
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Don't get sucked into self hate over photos of people who meet society's absurdly narrow standards of beauty. If this blog does that to you, please don't continue to trigger yourself with it...
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Instead, seek to learn self-compassion, self-love! For me it's the secret or the great discovery in life...everything comes down to: be great & kind to yourself in thought-word-deed, convert that also into: always feel gratitude for life, always feel compassion to others. Also, mindfulness! Meditation! Experience/be part of a spiritually like-minded community! (And maybe yoga, healthy habits, affirmations/visualizations...)
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Anyway I'm starting to really believe that the self love journey (involving gratitude & compassion for all) gives the nutrients you need to grow your ideal life... I only recently had this epiphany & it could be common sense to some... but people get hateful toward themselves, maybe over not being able to ever be happy, & it's no joke, that's miserable. Save yourself
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“The moment you become emotionally attached to the praise of others, you also become attached to the judgments of others as well. If you want to stop being affected by the judgments of others, you must let go of your attachment to external praise.”
— http://twitter.com/oyerooh/status/983838467716206595 (via wizdomly)
